{"id":4709,"date":"2017-06-06T23:00:44","date_gmt":"2017-06-06T23:00:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ankewebersmit.com\/?p=4709"},"modified":"2018-10-20T07:55:25","modified_gmt":"2018-10-20T07:55:25","slug":"10-challenges-of-society-for-high-sensitive-and-highly-gifted-persons","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ankewebersmit.com\/en\/10-challenges-of-society-for-high-sensitive-and-highly-gifted-persons\/","title":{"rendered":"10 alarming challenges of society for both (high) sensitive and (highly) gifted persons"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"HSP-HighlyGifted-Common-4\"When researching <\/strong>happiness in HSP<\/a> for my book ‘Expedition Highsensitivity’, I was thrilled to discover that (high) sensitive (HS) people have many personality traits in common with (highly) gifted (HG) people. Some of these trait combinations can set either \u2018group\u2019 apart from society. Particularly specific combinations of traits than lead to, for example, \u2018awkward\u2019 social situations or psychic abilities can be challenging for gifted or sensitive people. <\/strong>
\n\u00a0<\/em>
\nNormal behavior and its potential misreading <\/strong>
\nBut how can (high) sensitivity and giftedness alike give rise to some misunderstandings or misinterpretations in interaction with less gifted or less sensitive people? <\/em>
\nOr in short – the rest of society.
\nEasy.
\nThese are my 10 favorite potential misreading:<\/p>\n

1. HS and HG are highly curious and have many interests<\/h5>\n

Possible problems this can cause are: They start many projects and perhaps don\u2019t finish them when the concepts have lost the excitement of being new and the work becomes tedious. They may nog work well in a group.<\/p>\n

2. HS and HG are very fast thinkers<\/h5>\n

Possible problems this can cause are: They may get frustrated with others who think slowly in comparison.<\/p>\n

3. HS and HG generate original thoughts<\/h5>\n

Possible problems this can cause are: They may be argumentative and oppositional to other’s set ways of thinking. They oftentimes resent conformity.<\/p>\n

4. HS and HG are deep thinkers<\/h5>\n

Possible problems this can cause are: They hate deadlines. This may cause them avoiding doing work at all rather than do half a job.<\/p>\n

5. HS and HG does not expire, but can deep over time<\/h5>\n

Possible problems this can cause are: Both HS and HG may get more intense over time. This holds for people who are self-aware. People who lack (self-) awareness, may just fail prematurely or not come to fruition, as a consequence of being ignored, neglected, impractical, or without the necessary support to succeed.<\/p>\n

6. HS and HG exhibit greater intensity and increased levels of emotional, imaginational, intellectual, sensual and psychomotor erethism, which for them is a normal pattern of development<\/h5>\n

Possible problems this can cause are: These patterns can be perceived by psychotherapists and others as evidence of a mental disturbance because most of the population lacks accurate information about the special characteristics of sensitive or gifted individuals, couples and families.<\/p>\n

7. HS and HG have an urge for intense living<\/h5>\n

Possible problems this can cause are: When misdiagnosed, HS and HG people can end up being prescribed medication to suppress the \u2018symptoms of giftedness\u2019 which will lead to the neutralization of the wonderful inner fire and eventually lead to minimalization of the\u00a0 potential for an accomplished and fulfilled life.<\/p>\n

8. HS and HG have other intellectual, emotional and social standards, ideals and hopes than less sensitive of gifted people<\/h5>\n

Possible problems this can cause are: In want of solid knowledge about what is\u2019 considered normal\u2019 for HS and HG people, they are easily labeled neurotic, which renders them personally and emotionally vulnerable to a number of divergent relationship difficulties at home, work, school and in the community. Results of this kind of misdiagnosis may range from neglection to misguided counseling strategies designed to ‘normalize’ the inner world of HS and HG people.<\/p>\n

9. HS and HG have and exhibit high levels of intensity and sensitivity<\/h5>\n

Possible problems this can cause are: When \u2013 or if they seek therapy with therapist who have no special training in their identification and assistance they are frequently misdiagnosed because since their complex development pattern is overlooked.<\/p>\n

10. HS and HG often have asynchronous development, heightened levels of awareness, of energy and strong emotional responses. They also often experience intense inner turmoil<\/h5>\n

Possible problems this can cause are: (Uninitiated) experts when faced with these characteristics, can easily mislabeled them as signs of a personality or attentional disorder. Among the ladles of the erroneous diagnoses are histrionic, dysthymic, cyclothymic, borderline, narcissistic, ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) or ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder). In case of HS and HG, these labels oftentimes are describing normal stages of positive disintegration rather than disorders.
\nThese misreadings make\u00a0 that these people are typically misunderstood and underestimated by peers, by society, and usually even by themselves.
\nExeptionally gifted versus just being irritating<\/strong>
\nJust imagine that you have an average IQ, say it\u2019s 100. And you live in a group of people that all have IQ\u2019s between 70-80. How would you feel? Awkward? Misunderstood? The odd one out? Or even stupid because nobody seems to understand the way you think and react?
\nI read this story about a young female student1 <\/sup>who had spent 18 years believing she was not intelligent because she asked more questions than the others in class. Later, in one of her university classes, when the characteristics of the gifted were discussed, the woman was so moved by what she learned that she identified with the gifted even though she was certain she was not one of them.
\nShe was so affected by the lecture that later that day she spoke to her parents. During this conversation she discovered that she has an IQ of 165 (which corresponds to \u2018exceptionally gifted\u2019 in most rating systems2<\/sup>). Years back, school personnel had advised her parents not to let her know about her extraordinary IQ. This choice resulted in a low level of academic self-esteem in the young girl and the absurd self-conception of being stupid!
\nThe same feeling of being stupid can happen to a (highly) sensitive child, if it is not allowed to live according to it\u2019s true nature.
\nGrowing up as a (high) sensitive or (highly) gifted child<\/strong>
\nA challenge for (highly) sensitive and (highly) gifted children is growing up with and are being often socialized by significant others who do not grasp their nature well enough in order to assist them, guide their ideas and evaluate their actions with appropriate feedback.
\nParents can also sway between being proud of their offspring and being scared of the requirements and \u2018differentness\u2019 of an either highly sensitive or highly gifted child. I addition, parental pride on one hand and fear of social stigma on the other can lead to a parent giving inconsistend feedback to their HS or HG child.
\nHence, the child is in the know if it\u2019s sensitivity or giftedness is good or bad or maybe even very bad.
\nConcept of self<\/strong>
\nThis vagueness may muddle up it\u2019s concept of self. It\u2019s self-perception may develop ambivalently and slowly, which in turn can confuse people in it\u2019s souroundings. Especially other children may have problems to identify with a child, any child with a blurred idea of who it is and what it stands for. Out of this uncertainty, other children might turn to giving negative feedback to the HS or HG child, a coping mechanism to handle their own uncertainty about the friend or school mate. Such negative feedback, if internalized, can easily lead to a self-perception of the HS or HG child in which it is underrating itself. Just like our aforementioned female student did.
\nAs a consequence, most of the gifts and capacities of HS and HG persons are easily underutilized, denied or simply undiscovered and they may never fulfill their full creative potential.<\/p>\n